I have never thought of the "get over it" as a tough love approach.  It hit me in the head. My husband and son died and I was to "get over it" within a year.  I just got out of a psy facility (I wanted to die and find peace) because I couldn't concentrate or cope.  They felt (I have 5 family member's only) I should go to a half way house and that will "kick me back to reality". Now as I am sure you know, I already have bi-polar and depression and the deaths caught up with me when my Dad (1 of the 5) went on hospice.  They felt I needed a jump start. I was blessed by a g/f I worked with picked me up, dusted me off and I am so much better. I can think, I have my life back because of her. NOW, my family took me back because I am "back to normal". jeeeesh.. The old phrase, "You can pick your friends but not your family"

   I want to say you inspire me a great deal with your blogs. I all of them. Some I comment and some I don't cause they are self explainitory.

Totally agree with you Grant. What works for one person may seem like horse patooty to another. We each can only do, the best we can do and "best" is very individual. So hugs to all of you: you who left the rope in the closet, you who found less haze in a poem, you who kept on your med schedule.

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I suffer from chronic depression and I am on the medications abilify, zoloft, colaspam which seem to  hell with the activities of daily lining or at least soften the edges.  I read a blog where this person uses self   positive talk and I particularly liked what she said when she is in control of her depression, and her depression does not control her.  That it takes a lot of work to get undepressed.  That is what I have been practicing the last few days.  Success stories are great.